My first major point: no shopping. I make donations to charities in honor of people, and I have received only enthusiastic approval about that plan. Nobody wants another mug or t-shirt.
Second point: no extra cleaning. My house is clean enough all days of the year. Besides, I have a dog who doubles up as a vacuum cleaner at any time of year.
Having gotten those stressors our of the way, I just go and enjoy parties. If I choose to give one myself, I only do so because I consider it part of the fun and not part of the stress.
I only do what I truly want to do. I do not live up to other people’s expectations.