I’ve browsed some of the posts here and I’ve seen the language “My client has to want it more than I do,” used in a few of the posts. What does this mean, specifically? Why do you use this phrase in particular? It seems to refer to motivation — my client has to be motivated. Do you feel it’s a situation you get trapped in if your client is unmotivated? I think it’s a curious way of saying something and I’d like to understand the concept that this phrase describes. Thanks!
Is this part of client selection? Would you reject a client who doesn’t “want it” enough? How do you as a personal trainer work with a client’s (possibly fluctuating) levels of motivation and commitment to their program and goals?
Harris and Nancy gave excellent answers.
When a client approaches me for personal training, I do not make a selection based on whether or not I think that client may be less than motivated. It certainly happens when somebody approaches at the urging of another person, be it spouse or doctor. Sometimes it is possible to ignite the spark, and what was initially extrinsic motivation becomes intrinsic.
It also happens that the spark never ignites despite best efforts. Most clients then usually fade away but there are instances when people still continue. They often recognize (grudgingly) the importance of exercise to them but know that they would never do it on their own. It is not the inspiring situation for me a a personal trainer; yet I know that I am doing this for the benefit of the client, and thus the relationship continues as long as the clients wants it.