I’ve browsed some of the posts here and I’ve seen the language “My client has to want it more than I do,” used in a few of the posts. What does this mean, specifically? Why do you use this phrase in particular? It seems to refer to motivation — my client has to be motivated. Do you feel it’s a situation you get trapped in if your client is unmotivated? I think it’s a curious way of saying something and I’d like to understand the concept that this phrase describes. Thanks!
Is this part of client selection? Would you reject a client who doesn’t “want it” enough? How do you as a personal trainer work with a client’s (possibly fluctuating) levels of motivation and commitment to their program and goals?
When the client is ready to hire a trainer, he/she is usually ready to take the next step (which is the toughest one). Once this person has become your client, you will need to keep him/her motivated enough to continue training and engaged until the goals have been reached. If the client is ready to do some personal training then a big part of our job is done because it means that he/she is ready to commit (most of the times). And when the client wants it more than we do, then they are more acceptable to our suggestions, recommendations and help.
There will be moments when the client might want to either quit or take a step backwards. This is the reason why we as trainers need to start building a strong relationship with the client so they will not lose their confidence in us. If our relationship with them has strong foundation, then we will be able to help them during the difficult moments and keep them motivated enough to continue with their progress. If this part is missing, then the risk of them breaking away is high. I always believed that working on their confidence and their minds is very essential and it’s the hardest thing to do. Even if they are the ones who want it more, there will be a time when doubt could start invading their minds and make them lose their motivation and confidence.
For the majority of our clients putting a program together is the easy part of personal training. The toughest thing is to change the way they think, even when they say “they want it more than we do” :-)…