I guess this isn’t too much of a question but more of a concern. A month ago, I had a client start with me that had previously lost 100 pounds on her own. In 2010-2011, she was in optimum shape and kept it off for 3 years. She since has put on 30 pounds and contacted me to help her stop and lose. The first two weeks, she was dropping pounds and feeling great. She is NO slacker and really puts in some tough sessions with me. I’ve kept in varied, incorporating Boxing, Bosu challenges, weight training, sprinting, etc and I am SO proud of her giving her all. She turns in her dietary logs and is very specific on everything.
Here is where the problem lies. She doesn’t have the greatest support, i.e. her spouse, who she said is morbidly obese, not really wanting to make a change at this time. She tends to sabotage herself once he is eating his meals of choice and falls back into pattern. She is also training for a run on her own of 10 miles happening Oct.4, so she’s been getting some long runs in during her own time, and Yoga. She has a hairdresser that puts her down when seeing her commenting on her weight gain since last time, etc. I REALLY want to help this woman. She did so well on her own and I can see is really hurting and trying to be consistent but is being pulled in different directions. She said she plans to stay with me training, right now she’s been doing 3 days a week and I don’t want to see her regress. I guess I just want to keep it intense for her but don’t know how to keep her from slipping on her own and I am worried for her. She recovered from Back Surgery 3 years ago as well and really is trying.
Sorry so lengthy and no real question, guess I just feel like any input may help.
Karin and Harris have good responses. I would also suggest you encourage her to find a new hairdresser! One thing I do with some of my clients is send them almost daily “textspirations”. Not all of them want or need it, but those I send them to say it helps them feel supported and stay on track. Other clients enjoy the app MyFitnessPal. They can keep their food and exercise diary there (and allow you to view it), and network with others on the site for more support. You might also try to get her physician on board as additional support.
I couldn’t agree more with Karin, so there is not much to add to that. One thing you could do or suggest to her is to keep signing up for a variety of races just as the 10 mile run. Some options could be a Spartan race or a GORUCK event or a triathlon race. These types of events will keep her motivated to stick with her training and challenged enough to keep her mind focused on a healthier lifestyle. And even better would be if you do some of those races with her for support.
your client has the greatest support now: YOU. Your positive and understanding attitude will do a lot to offset the negativity that she is facing from others. Her hairdresser – who cares? She sees that person once every 6 weeks but she sees you 3 times per week.
Just keep doing what you are doing. Your concern and caring will go a long way towards her regaining her confidence. She has gained back 20 lbs., and I can see that that makes her very anxious. But by her contacting you and working with you shows that she knows what to do and where to get help.
She is lucky that she has found you. You cannot change her environment but you can create an oasis of positivity, health and wellness which will help her greatly and will be a refuge.