I guess this isn’t too much of a question but more of a concern. A month ago, I had a client start with me that had previously lost 100 pounds on her own. In 2010-2011, she was in optimum shape and kept it off for 3 years. She since has put on 30 pounds and contacted me to help her stop and lose. The first two weeks, she was dropping pounds and feeling great. She is NO slacker and really puts in some tough sessions with me. I’ve kept in varied, incorporating Boxing, Bosu challenges, weight training, sprinting, etc and I am SO proud of her giving her all. She turns in her dietary logs and is very specific on everything.
Here is where the problem lies. She doesn’t have the greatest support, i.e. her spouse, who she said is morbidly obese, not really wanting to make a change at this time. She tends to sabotage herself once he is eating his meals of choice and falls back into pattern. She is also training for a run on her own of 10 miles happening Oct.4, so she’s been getting some long runs in during her own time, and Yoga. She has a hairdresser that puts her down when seeing her commenting on her weight gain since last time, etc. I REALLY want to help this woman. She did so well on her own and I can see is really hurting and trying to be consistent but is being pulled in different directions. She said she plans to stay with me training, right now she’s been doing 3 days a week and I don’t want to see her regress. I guess I just want to keep it intense for her but don’t know how to keep her from slipping on her own and I am worried for her. She recovered from Back Surgery 3 years ago as well and really is trying.
Sorry so lengthy and no real question, guess I just feel like any input may help.
I am wondering have you considered that intensity may not be the way to lasting change? That constantly entertaining her with various challenges may not be serving long term wellness?
You talk about being proud of her giving it all, but is she proud of herself, or is she just trying to please her extrinsic motivator you? What about intrinsic motivators?
Consider co-creating with her a program that has some emotional component and not just physical. For example, ask questions around what is her most reoccuring self talk, or does she have a technique for eliminating stress in the moment such as a visualization, or breathing exercise, or does she have an enriching home environment, and if not what can she do to make it so? Sounds like some sound coaching might be helpful, or perhaps referring her to a professional who is trained to dig deeper.