This question may be a little out of place here but, where else can I get such real answers from such real professionals. I have been having a very emotional day today as I am getting married next week (so after I post this I am logging off for the day.) I really would like to know how those of you who are married, handle dividing your time with your work and your spouse? I love her and I love my work, and I don’t wish either of them to get neglected.
I know there are times, when it is hard to juggle, your personal and proffesional roles, and be sure to get in your own workouts, and at the same time making time for your partner. I have noticed that with clients I prefer when they set a time for an apointment, and at times I try to put my spouse in box so to speak, where I want to say ok, tuesday night at 6:00 we will have dinner. I have learned that’s not always the best approach. Dates are important, active and non-active dates, but when married, I believe they deserve a majority of our descretionary time. Even when married, you never stop dating your partner, so we can’t treat our dates, like apointments, not allowing walk-ins, etc.
Well, its official… I’m hitched! Thank you to everyone that responded to my question. Marlan, I think your input was quite valid as I lived with this wonderful lady for 4 years (and have been buying a house with her for 2 of those) before we took this next step. I really took the time to contemplate each and every answer and I believe the advice to be sound. Karin, I did pose this very question directly to her and it eased my worries greatly, thank you for the push. Joanne, I asked myself that most difficult question and said “She’s worth it” and things kinda began to clear up on their own. Danielle, I’ll be sure to always value both and hold them in my highest regaurd. Debbie, what an impressive comparison of professions! I tend to be a workaholic and haven’t been a good sounding board for her occupational concerns, so, I’m changing that a little every day. Elizabeth, I got your post a little after the the fact but it encourages me that you also believe that the dating doesn’t end at marriage. We have date nights now but I will be certain to always accept her walk-ins with open arms!
Again, THANK YOU to all of you for acknowledging my concern with such personal insight. It is both interesting and applicable to any who may be asking themselves this very question.