the only ‘contract’ of that kind was an agreement that I made with a client which detailed my responsibilities and ‘her end of the bargain’.
I understand where you are coming from but this almost sounds like the fitness version of a pre-nuptial agreement. There clearly needs to be communication between the couple but I would strongly suggest that you let them work on the arrangements between the two of them.
Hi Marianne. I like the concept (i.e. a partnership in health), but after working with several partners of a spouse who was NOT involved in becoming healthier the one thing I’ve learned is that the motivation of the “other partner” has to come from within. The “contract” that they share has its beginnings in their marriage contract in my opinion, and so the spouse should be supportive and helpful even without this type of agreement. If it takes this type of agreement for the partner to get this type of support from their spouse, I’m not sure it’s going to work in the long run.
Just my two cents.
I am about to do this with a client. As any trainer knows its impossible for change to happen without a solid support system. So what happens when a trainer gets a client with health issues that are directly related to obesity and has no developed support system? Its an easy answer. I am going to get my client to list 3 of her closest friends/family then sign an agreement with them stipulating that they understand that she is undergoing a lifestyle change and that they will in no way interfere or sabotage her, but will instead encourage her and take necessary action should they see her showing signs of weakness.
Something along those lines.
Interesting concept, I have never used a contract but have dealt with spousal sabotage quite a bit.
I keep all areas of communication open with my clients and their spouses. If my client is having difficulty in a certain area, we will sit down and write out the concerns and then actually write out reasonable ways to “stick up” for their choices and newfound ways of doing things and then actually role play until they feel confident about it.
Contracts may work in some cases but in life and reality people need to be able to deal with situations that arise and not depend on a contract to protect them.