I coach youth wrestling and this year I’ve ran into my first trouble kid. He teases other kids, makes undermining comments about practice and clearly has a problem with authority. My initial reaction was to pull him aside and reprimand him for the behavior but I believe that might be an all to common problem at leading to the behavior now. I recently got my certification and I’m sure I’ll run into people down the road with similar problems. Not sure what to do any suggestions?
I agree that this behavior is most likely connected to the way his parents have raised him. I agree with LaRue about making him an assistant. It would be seemed as a reward for bad behavior, which is what his parents are doing. You cannot give in to him and his attitude, because next time it will be even more difficult to tell him no or “punish” him when he is out of line. He probably needs someone to follow as a good example, not make him an example for others to follow.
This is a difficult situation, mostly because you don’t have all the puzzle pieces together in order to make a good decision here. If he continues to be unwilling to follow your lead and be part of the team, it’s best to cut him loose. Unless you can talk to him in a way that he can understand what he is doing wrong and be willing to follow your lead, the problem has to be addressed by his parents where they might have to find a professional/counselor for him to talk to. What ever the message is going to be it has to be very clear, so there will be no second guessing going around.
The decision is yours to make…not an easy one. Good luck.