Hi Ira. Good advice has been given here. Also try cooking with your wife – make it a team effort! Coming from a family with a strong Southern background myself, I totally understand what you’re dealing with. Changing any habit (such as our cooking methods) will take a little time, but if you deal with it one small step at a time (for example suggest that you guys saute the greens one night instead of cooking them the normal way; or try substituting a ‘healthy’ oil instead of lard or whatever) you may find that you both will enjoy exploring new ways of preparing your food. What I find that leads to certain failure, not only in trying to change our eating habits, but in trying to change any habit, is when we try to change everything all at once – seldom works! So take it a step at a time, have fun in the kitchen and enjoy!
I hope that this helps.