I have a client who wants to hang out and have me over to her house all the time. She also texts me all the time, with non-related personal training stuff, and wants to take me out to eat for special occasions.
I told her that she doesn’t need to do that for me. I try to limit my texts to her now because I did go to her house 2-3 times before to be nice to her and have dinner. But it is weird because no one else is at her house and she is 45 years older than me, not friend age!
I am a straight woman, just 25 years old, but it just doesn’t seem like a good idea anymore—I was trying to be nice but I believe she thinks I am her long lost granddaughter (or worse).
I don’t want to be friends, just have a good client to trainer relationship and she seems to think I am to be her best friend. How do I tell her kindly that she needs to stop. Is there a code of ethics that specifies this, something sort of “excuse” as to not offend her—or is that not possible? I tried to be nice and kind by changing the subject when she asks me over, or say no thanks “you do not need to do that for me—etc., ” but she is taking it way too far with texts/dinner/always wanting me to come over.
Suggestions on how professionally tell her to stop or is there a code of ethics that I can use to tell her she has to stop?
You are certainly in an unusual situation. I assume you want to keep this lady as a client.
Joanne certainly has a point when she asks where her friends are. Unfortunately, some people do not have friends, and there is reason to believe that she drives away people with her – I assume – well-intentioned invitations.
You probably accepted some invitations initially which opened the door for her. From here on, you have to say ‘No, thank you’ without further explanation. Should she ask you why you no longer have time, be honest that you are not comfortable with this evolving relationship.
No, there is no code of ethics for this case behind which to hide. But be compassionate with her; it is possible that you are the only person she interacts with.